HOW TO MANAGE YOUR WEDDING GUEST LIST

Drafting and finalizing your guest list might be one of the biggest headaches of the wedding planning process. A guest list that is too long can bust your wedding budget quick, but deciding who makes the cut is sometimes easier said than done. With financial demands, family demands, and your own interests in determining the guest list, it’s important to create a system and stick to it. Here are a few tips to help you make the cut:


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1.  CREATE A LIST OF EVERYONE

This might seem counter active, but trust us it is important. By starting with a list of literally everyone that is in you and your fiancé’s lives you avoid the risk of missing someone important later and you can see just how many people need to be cut.

2. DIVIDE INTO AN A-LIST AND B-LIST

Look through all the people in your lives and determine the absolute must haves (immediate family members, close friends, bridal party, etc). These will be the ones that will receive an invitation no matter what. This will in turn create your B-list that the cuts will take place in.

3. SET CUTTING RULES

Work with your fiancé and create firm rules on how you will make the cuts. The biggest struggle in cutting a guest list is not letting it cause a war between the two of you. Agree on the cutting system so there is no drama later on. What exactly are “Rules”? Here is a couple examples:

-If the person is someone you and your spouse have not BOTH met or heard of, then you don’t invite them.

-If you or your spouse have not spoken to someone within the last 2 years (that are not on the A-list), then don’t invite them.

4.   EXCLUDE COWORKERS

One of the easiest ways to minimize a guest list is to agree to cut all coworkers from the list. While these might be people you see daily, if you don’t have a relationship outside of work don’t invite them. Don’t feel obligated to include everyone from the office because you might have a new job tomorrow, so be selective in this category.

5.   LIMIT THE PLUS ONES

Of course you want to allow everyone to have a plus one, but sometimes this can add another 50 people to your guest list that aren’t needed. Create a system when determining who gets a plus one and stick to it. A good rule of thumb is only offering a plus one to those who are married, engaged, live together, or been in a long term relationship (you determine the length). Everyone else will more than likely bring someone you have never met which might not be in the budget.


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